Substance abuse doesn’t just affect the person using drugs or alcohol. A person’s family and loved ones are also impacted. From the spouse who has to work extra hard to compensate for a person’s lack of parenting due to substance abuse to the co-worker who covers for a person who is consistently under-performing due to their substance abuse history, there are many people who are impacted by substance abuse. When a person does pursue sobriety, they may wish to begin rebuilding these relationships whenever possible. Family therapy can help.
Family therapy involves having a person struggling with substance abuse participate in counseling sessions with family members or loved ones or having family members participate in their own counseling sessions. Often, when a family member struggles with substance abuse, the family falls into familiar and often detrimental patterns that can keep the relationship from being a positive one. By participating in family therapy and working with a counselor, a family can learn about and start to correct the dysfunctional roles that the family may have taken on.
Therapists have used family therapy since the 1950s to help families strengthen their roles with each other. Since that time, several treatment approaches and theories as to how to conduct family therapy have emerged.
How Does Addiction Impact a Family?
Addiction can affect families in a number of ways, from causing conflict to depression. Potential impacts and conflict sources include:
- Conflict: A person can experience conflict with several family members due to their substance abuse. Examples can include conflict with a partner. A couple may argue with each other and start to grow apart as a person gets deeper and deeper into their addiction. A couple may especially argue about money, as a person struggling with substance abuse may have difficulty keeping a job or may spend most of their money on drugs or alcohol. A person may also experience conflict with their children. Their children may lose respect for a parent’s authority, which can lead to further conflicts as well.
- Jealousy: A person abusing substances may experience jealousy of people who have their lives more together or do not struggle with drugs or alcohol. A partner may also be jealous of a person who is abusing a particular substance because that person may seem to be having fun or partying and living a carefree lifestyle.
- Emotional/Physical Trauma: Substance abuse can wreak havoc on a person’s family. A person who abuses drugs or alcohol may engage in verbal and physical abuse. A person may yell, scream, or insult other family members. Sometimes, they may even become violent by throwing objects, hitting others, or smashing objects. Each of these behaviors can leave lasting emotional and physical scars.
- Isolation: Substance abuse can be isolating to families. The person abusing drugs or alcohol may start to withdraw from friends and family members for fear the family will learn about their substance abuse. Or, they may become so wrapped up in using drugs or alcohol that they miss important life events and functions. Also, family members may isolate themselves from a loved one who abuses drugs for fear that person will be a bad influence on children or other family members.
The effects of substance abuse on a family can create strained or complicated relationships. Children can become the caregivers of their parents. People can also suffer from co-dependence, which is where a person maintains a relationship with a person who is emotionally destructive or abusive. Sometimes a co-dependent person may enable the person who struggles with addiction by ignoring their problems, covering up their mistakes, and making excuses for their bad behaviors. These strained relationships can be very harmful to both parties because one is the victim and the other is addicted. Both parties need help in order to heal.